Comparison is the thief of joy. That statement is so true.

Comparison keeps us from seeing the good things in our lives. Comparison believes that I did not get my fair shake. It is the ultimate “I am not enough” or “I am unique and not in a good way.”

Comparison looks to others as a measure of how good or bad our lives and situations are. I don't have pain as bad as that person, so I should be okay. Or I look around and see everyone else's families happy or taking that dream vacation, and my family does not. When someone else gets promoted, our instinct is to compare talents and productivity. It is human desire to see if our lives will be okay. 

What happens when we start comparing? We usually feel disappointed, jealous, and envious. We begin to look for a way to measure up or improve our lives. Comparison is irrational - it is our perception and not necessarily the reality of another’s experience. 

The remedy to comparison is gratitude and spirituality. Spirituality means recognizing that we are part of something bigger than ourselves. We live in a big world. Spirituality is about connection. Spirituality accepts reality but finds gratitude and purpose.  Spirituality is serving others and taking care of the least of these - volunteering in a pet rescue, helping a neighbor, or caring for a sick child.  Spirituality connects us to our breath and quiets overthinking.  Spirituality looks for gratitude in everyday life and responds with connection. 

Comparison plans a response to a future that is not fair. That future may not ever happen.

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